Too many people have jobs or lives in which anything bigger than a paper cut, or indigestion is a wild stretch of what their day can bring. Way too many for my taste. It breeds naivety and unreliable succession of personal affairs.

I specifically asked Duane Marrs, like I have several people that have rebuilt things for me like a $13000 harley motor if they have made SPECIFIC contingency plans if a train should run over them, or lightning strike them god forbid.

Duane Marrs had no problem at all telling me that Jeff Surratt would handle all estate type business, or his wife, should both Jeff and he perish in the same incident, or both laugh themselves to death over the same Sho~Bud historical absurdity.

I have a job that entails my being in and out of machinery I am loading in heavy traffic, and I know many others work with the most poisonous and unstable of chemicals, antigens, and other matter of fact, daily menaces. Acts of God, and physical infirmities on top of that. I have had many days when I doubted being able to come home at the end of. A gig or two thataway as well..

Myself, I make sure there is a signed check in the desk draw, for my spouse to back date and empty the account of, a number on my computer case for a friend to unlock and deal with my HDDs, and my will is current, and notarized semi-annualy. ( My guitars know where they will go, just like my dogs. To my wife's new boy friend.)

Anybody in business that does not do this, especially while handling other people's valuable possessions, is not thinking clearly.

Possibly it is the poster's fault for not asking these specific pointed, relavant, and reasonable questions, though it is not his burden nor responsibility in reasonable community particiation in a civlized world.

It doesn't seem like a big deal either way as it's a pretty small part.

It is simple and easy to ask people like Duane and Jeff, Bobbe, or other people I have dealt with in other business, this very human, and non offensive question.

We all die, bless our hearts..

EJL

[This message was edited by Eric West on 11 March 2005 at 01:18 AM.]

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I don't know the original poster, but I don't think his question can be equated with rifling the widow's purse after knocking her down at the funeral. At least it didn't read thataway to me. And no, even I probably wouldn't do that..

Sheesh..

Maybe it might be a word to the wise for those handling other people's stuff, taking orders, etc. It's wise to consider it. Especially to those that are as considerate as Ed seemed to be.

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At some point he is going to have to ask one of Ed's surviving family members something about this.

My wife does busines at trade shows, she comes home with Bo-Koo orders prepaid..God forbid something happen to her , I'm certain I would appreciate a period of time but at some point her customers who prepaid are going to call to see whats up..

It's very awkward for sure..

Ed was a dear friend of mine and we spent many hours on the phone talking about our favorite subject - steel guitars. In fact two days before his death we had a long conversation about keyheads and he had one ready to send me.

Mike, you obviously didn't know Ed or you would never have reacted in such a harsh way. Ed was a gentle soul - he cared for people and was very kind to animals. Never once did I hear him ever use the word "damn." Your reaction was nothing more than an emotional outburst devoid of any logic.

Farris, I am very disappointed in your response - vultures indeed!!

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Riva Ridge Recording

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In the 35 years I have spent in funeral service I think I have a firm idea of what to and WHEN to. My response might have been more to the point than Jim Cohen's response but they both say the same thing, "it ain't time yet!" Give his widow a chance to catch her breath and gather her composure because closing the book on someone's life is the most difficult thing that faces them. In a "Dick & Jane" response, maybe I should have just said "Chill TB, it ain't time yet!"

"I was beginning to think my statement went right over everyone's head."

This is getting better and better....

Gotta run.

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That is what usually happens to emotional outbursts!!

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Mike. An Undertaker?

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Do all funeral directors express surprise by using "damn" or is it just you??

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" Does anyone know "

How that can be translated into anything else is way beyond my minimal comprehension..

I think this thread is taking on a new life that has nothing do do with it's ORIGINAL life..

as many threads on Forums do..we respond to the last post rather than the intital topic post..

drives me nuts...

TB..hang in there dude..

t

[This message was edited by Tony Prior on 11 March 2005 at 07:58 AM.]